Gender

Gender

If we accept that genders are constructed and performed, they must also be created.  How do we invent new genders? According to genderspectrum.org, there are three components to gender:

Body - our experience of our own body

Identity -the name we use to convey our gender 

Social - how we present our gender in the world

Finding language for my body is hard.  I can’t really invent it by myself. I need some kind of community.  Why is ContraPoints the person who makes the most sense to me? I want new genders within masculinity that I actually identify with.  Both from before ADT and now. There must be a list somewhere of considered, nuanced, masculine gender identities. I have only found lists of things that don’t quite fit.  

And why does there need to be a social component to gender?  I’m still just hiding out in this fat man’s body hoping the fellows don’t notice how little I admire their habit of sexualizing every woman we encounter.  This passing felt safer when I was a simple heterofeminist. I felt stronger then and more confident. Now that my gender is slipping, I feel far more vulnerable.  Do they know? Can they tell?