#metoo

#metoo

Gentlemen, the comeuppance has finally come up.  It’s time to look at ourselves. Depending on what you find, go see a priest or an understanding friend.  It’s important that they are trustworthy. Tell the truth about yourself. When you get back, let’s talk about how to change our behavior.  

What I find in myself, when I look for it, is not flattering.  I want to be liked, I want to be wanted, I want to be special. I have wanted this from women, specifically.  These desires might be natural, and considered normal, but they don’t necessarily serve me or us well. And to inflict unwanted desires on women is unfair to them.  At the bottom of it, for me, is pride, selfishness and fear. It’s on me to handle these aspects of my character in ways that diminish or eliminate their effects on other people. 

Pick a principle you admire.  Starting with honesty is probably a good idea, because the ability to be honest with one’s self and with others is fundamental.  Try applying the principle in your daily life to every decision you make and every action you take. Don’t get crazy when you fuck up.  Just try to be a little more honest every day.  

My dudes, please join me.  The last 10,000 or so years have revealed damning truths and disturbing trends in how we have been collectively wielding power in ways that harm us all.  Let’s improve.